Relationship Help: S/he Who Won’t Be Pleased!

Have you ever lived with, or worked with or for, S/he Who Won’t Be Pleased? No matter how much attention, time or effort you give something, it is not good enough. No matter how much you offer, you are discounted for not offering more, or for not offering something different. Relationship problems result. Does it…

3 Immediate Ways to Empower Yourself When Someone is Angry

When someone is angry–especially when you are faced with an angry, relentlessly difficult person–always remember that the angrier they are, the more brain-dead they are. (Well, not really brain-dead, but when someone is angry, s/he is incapable of thinking straight, that’s for sure.) It’s a simple matter of body chemistry and physiology. The angrier you…

Keeping Your Cool When Hijackals™ Don’t!

Hijackals™–those relentlessly difficult people in your life–like to think they have power over you. They practice that–in fact, check that–by trying to make you lose your cool. It’s that simple! I’m going to help you with these steps for keeping  your cool around them. Usually, you are on guard for the next irritation when you’re…

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Speaking When You’re Angry Costs Too Much. Do This Instead.

You are so angry and you just want to tell that !#&*()#$! what you really think…and what you believe s/he needs to know! Likely, that’s very unwise! Managing your anger is the most important issue at this moment. It’s a fleeting moment, don’t miss it. Managing Anger: Ask yourself: Where do I want to be…

12 Relationship “Do’s” For A More Loving Holiday Season

TWELVE RELATIONSHIP “DO’S” FOR THE HOLIDAYS ….and every day!  Relationship help that, well…helps!  People fall in love, get engaged and get married over the holidays.  People visit families and feel at home, or remember why they seldom visit.  People react to the stress of the holidays poorly and relationships crack, develop fracture lines, or fall…

Relationship Advice: Is Your Friend’s Relationship Emotionally Dangerous?

Are you afraid that your friend is in an emotionally dangerous relationship? Here’s some immediate relationship help, so you can share it with your friend right away. You want your friend to be safe, yet you see his or her partner behaving in less-than-loving ways too often. How can you know if s/he is in…

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Are You Letting Jealousy Ruin Your Relationship?

JEALOUSY! The green, fire-breathing monster lies in wait to devour relationships! Is it just waiting for an opportunity to put an end to yours? Jealousy is within you. It has nothing to do with your partner. No matter what your partner does, you still feel jealous UNLESS you track it down, dissect it, and reduce…

Relationship Help: Does Your Ex Bad Mouth You to Your Kids?

It is SUCH an obvious thing that should not happen: ex-partners badmouthing one another to the children. That’s when you really might need to step up and get relationship help to put a stop to it!  It is SO important to manage your relationship with your ex WITH YOUR EX, NOT through the kids!  But,…

Keynotes & Seminars

“Motivating, inspiring, content-rich, practical. What more could we have wanted!”   That comment from a recent meeting planner is just what you will hear when you engage Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor. These power-packed topics are available as keynotes, breakouts and half or full-day seminars. SPEAKING & SEMINAR TOPICS: SEX, LIES & CELLPHONES: Read More > >

Relationship Help: Is Your Ex Still Punishing You?

Wow! So frequently in my classes and coaching I meet people who are no longer together who still want to punish each other. My question: What’s up with that?  You’re done. Get over it. Move on. Create a new life. Why are you so involved with the past that you want to build a condo and live there,…