What Good Is There In Receiving Criticism From Someone You Hardly Know?

Have you ever experienced receiving criticism from someone you hardly knew–and, who hardly knew you?  It’s a strange situation, isn’t it? I think so. I wonder if they think it is a way to build intimacy in a relationship that is barely past the acquaintance stage? Or, is it an attempt to demonstrate their vast awareness…

Difficult People At Work Make You Want to Stay Home

Hijackals™, aka chronically difficult people at work, can create a daily hell when you have to interact with them. How do they show up and what can you do with them? A few weeks ago, my colleague and friend, Robert Imbriale, invited me to talk about my term, Hijackals™–those chronically difficult people at work–on his…

Mediation Services to solve relationship problems

If you are having relationship problems at home or at work,  I can help. Conflict is inevitable. Combat can leave you dead right, but, dead nonetheless! Mediation creates clarity, communication & collaboration to live with new agreements. – Rhoberta Shaler, PhD Whether you are focused on improving your relationship, or ending it, my clients say Read More > >

no winner at the blame game

Stop Blaming Others: Why You Need To Give Up The Blame Game.

Have you noticed that, when anything negative, unpleasant or embarrassing happens, people look for something or someone to blame? How about you? Are you ready to stop blaming others? Even if they trip on the sidewalk, it’s the city’s fault, or bad workmanship, or the Universe out to get them! What about thinking about their…

This behaviour is making me crazy

What to Do with a Bully at Work

You went to work for this company and you were so excited. Just days later, it started.  The bully at work started showing her colors, defining her territory and stomping the ground! Help! I thought it was going to be so good. What do I do? We expect bullies on a school playground or to…

Relationship Help: Are You Getting Diatribes When You’re Wanting Dialogues?

Sometimes, we’re afraid to open up conversations about troubling issues for fear it will only make matters worse. We’re afraid that we’ll be met with a diatribe and there will be no dialogue. Sound familiar? What’s a diatribe? Well, that’s when someone holds forth and seldom takes a breath while giving you all the reasons,…

Keynotes & Seminars

“Motivating, inspiring, content-rich, practical. What more could we have wanted!”   That comment from a recent meeting planner is just what you will hear when you engage Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor. These power-packed topics are available as keynotes, breakouts and half or full-day seminars. SPEAKING & SEMINAR TOPICS: SEX, LIES & CELLPHONES: Read More > >

Relationship Help: Angry? Who, Me?

Anger is truly a hot topic! Not just from the point of view of the pun, but because those who have anger issues don’t want to talk about them–too hot to touch–and those who keep their anger to themselves don’t want to talk about it–too hot to handle. What do you do with yours? In…

Relationship Help: New EBook for you on Dealing with Passive-Aggressive Behavior & People

  It’s ready for you. My new ebook, STOP! That’s Crazy-Making! will help you to recognize, respond to, and recover from the passive-aggressive behavior of the folks in your life at home and at work. We are often confounded by the behavior of others. One of those confounding behaviors in passive-aggressive behavior. Many of my…