Always Your Fault? Always Wrong? You May Be With A Hijackal.

Is everything–somehow–always your fault? Do you so much want to believe your partner loves you, yet, you are so frequently being hurt? Do you justify your partner’s behavior with “S/he is just having a bad day, a bad time, under stress” too often? People who cannot allow themselves to think Continue Reading →

Anger & Aggression Ruin Relationships. Think About This.

When there is anger and aggression, do the wise thing: look inward first. Why start with you? Because you can’t change others! Be wise. Start with yourself. Anger and aggression? Other people can be crazy-making. No doubt! And, they can be scary: demeaning, belittling, demanding, threatening. All those things are Continue Reading →

Boomerang of Blame: Why Difficult People Make It All Your Fault

“It’s crazy-making! No matter how wrong s/he is, it’s always my fault. I’m to blame!” That’s what I hear from so many clients: everything is always their fault. That’s because they are in relationships with chronically difficult people, aka Hijackals™  (scroll down for a quick video: My partner is constantly Continue Reading →

Speaking When You’re Angry Costs Too Much. Do This Instead.

You are so angry and you just want to tell that !#&*()#$! what you really think…and what you believe s/he needs to know! Likely, that’s very unwise! Managing your anger is the most important issue at this moment. It’s a fleeting moment, don’t miss it. Managing Anger: Ask yourself: Where Continue Reading →

Why Your Partner Always Makes You Feel Not Good Enough

“Nothing I do is right, not good enough. I do my best but it seems it’s never enough.” Do you feel that way much of the time with your partner, your mother, or a boss? Not just occasionally, but most of the time? (Watch the video at the bottom of this Continue Reading →

Manage Anger Or It Will Manage You!

When people come to me for anger management coaching and classes, they often say: “I don’t like who I am when I let my anger fly!”  They are disappointed, embarrassed, humiliated, and/or, having to mop up a big spill of emotions that didn’t need to happen. You might say, “Yes, it Continue Reading →

Passive Aggressive Relationships – When Is It Abuse?

Passive Aggressive Abuse in Relationships Leaving you shaking your head in disbelief, it’s like a nightmare where you try to run away and all you ever find are dead ends with no escape. You may even be dealing with a Hijackal*! It’s crazy-making. It’s infuriating. It’s passive-aggressive behavior! It requires relationship help! Continue Reading →

Passive Aggressive Behavior Examples

It’s important to have some passive aggressive behavior examples because too many people like to throw labels around–especially when they are angry! When someone won’t do what you want them to do, that’s just them either being too busy, disinterested, unwilling, or just plain ornery.  Who knows? When someone doesn’t Continue Reading →

If you are experiencing relationship drama, you are in the right place.

Here you will find the advice you need to stop the drama! Plus new proven strategies to make your relationship more loving, respectful, honest, trusting, supportive and intimate. RECENT NOTE FROM A CLIENT: “Thank you for helping repair our once Read More > >

Am I Seeing A Passive-Aggressive Man?

Passive-aggressive people do passive-aggressive things. Until you say “NO!”, this pattern will continue! Today a woman called the office to ask if there was any hope for her relationship because she really thinks the man she’s involved with is passive-aggressive. She also wanted to get her hands on a copy Continue Reading →