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Your Children Watch You. What Are They Learning?

Children watch. From the moment they are born, they watch…and, they are watching you.  Right from birth, your children watch. They are being imprinted with all that they take in through their senses, through what they see, hear, taste, touch, and smell. They have no language but they hear the tone of your voice. They…

Scary difficult person who mkaes you feel trapped and anxious.

Trapped By a Hijackal in Sheep’s Clothing? Beware!

Hijackals™ are chameleons when you first meet them. They will be just what you want them to be…and that’s the beginning of the path to feeling trapped. It’s like they can read your soul and give you the love, attention, and understanding you have longed for.   S/he scooped you up, engaged you fully, and stole…

feeling taken for granted

Ever say ‘I’m Feeling Taken For Granted In My Relationship?”

Feeling taken for granted is an underlying relationship problem that can pop up regularly. It wears many disguises in a relationship. When your partner finds ways to justify behavior that leaves you feeling unheard, unseen, and unsupported, it’s likely that you will start feeling taken for granted. S/he just expects that you will somehow understand…

How to Avoid “Holiday Hell” with Family, Friends & Partners!

Holiday Hell! That’s when you are pushed, pressured, obligated and bound by the expectations of others that you have taken on yourself. Those others may be your family, your partner, your church, workplace or culture. You somehow feel you HAVE to do things, to live up to those expectations.  GREAT NEWS! Holiday Hell is self-imposed…

Relationship Help: Does Your Ex Bad Mouth You to Your Kids?

It is SUCH an obvious thing that should not happen: ex-partners badmouthing one another to the children. That’s when you really might need to step up and get relationship help to put a stop to it!  It is SO important to manage your relationship with your ex WITH YOUR EX, NOT through the kids!  But,…

Are you Self-Aware & “Other” Wise?

Becoming other wise is one of the greatest benefits of getting relationship help, even when you don’t think you need it. Gathering insights and learning skills proactively keeps your relationship healthy and strong. Don’t wait for a problem! Recently, I was invited to speak at a women’s conference just an hour away from my home.…

Relationship Help: Good-Enough Parenting between Neglect & Over-Protect

Perfectionistic parents have a tough time with “good-enough” parenting. Other parents have a tough time finding the balance between the two extremes of neglecting and over-protecting. Where is that balance and how do you know if you’ve found it? First of all, we need a little more information. Do you have a life, or are…

Keynotes & Seminars

“Motivating, inspiring, content-rich, practical. What more could we have wanted!”   That comment from a recent meeting planner is just what you will hear when you engage Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor. These power-packed topics are available as keynotes, breakouts and half or full-day seminars. SPEAKING & SEMINAR TOPICS: SEX, LIES & CELLPHONES: Read More > >

Relationship Help: Is That Communication? Really?

Communication is a two-way street. Unfortunately, it often seems to have detours and dead ends!  So, here’s a little relationship help in the communication department that can really make a difference. As George Bernard Shaw says, “The problem with communication is the illusion that it has occurred.”  Now, he said a mouthful right there. So many…

Relationship Help: Are You Looking for a Fight?

The big question in any conflict is: Are you looking for a fight or trying to make things right? If you are looking for a fight in a troubled, or even in a relatively calm, relationship, you’ll likely find it.  You can, though, change your focus to trying to make things right with a little…