Answers To Common Relationship Questions

relationship questionsHi, I’m Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor. I’m here to offer answers to your relationship questions. 

When life and love feel crazy-making, you need insights, skills, strategies….and answers. Those, I offer.  I’ve helped hundreds of people just like you get unstuck and clearer on their best next steps for more than twenty-five years. 


My particular specialty is working with the partners, exes, adult children, and co-workers of chronically difficult people. I call them  “Hijackals™.” (If you’re not sure if the person you are thinking of is actually a Hijackal, download my free ebook, How to Spot a Hijackal, HERE.

It’s difficult–some say almost impossible–to really see what’s going on by yourself. Having a “guide on the side” is the best way to figure things out and take the next best steps.  I want to help you communicate, manage conflict, negotiate and collaborate effectively: all essential elements for creating the honesty, safety,  trust, and respect healthy relationships require.

Have you thought or said any of these things, lately?

When you click on each topic below, you’ll soon get to my video comments for each. This is a work in progress, and these are the most common relationship issues I receive questions about.

I just don't feel heard or respected by my partner.
My partner is always blaming me.
I think we're headed for a breakup that I don't want.
My ex is constantly taking me to court, and it's costly.
My mother drives me crazy.
I feel as though my partner just cannot be pleased.
My attorney doesn't stand up for me.
We fight. Every couple of weeks we have a big argument that escalates to the 'leaving' conversation.
I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't in most things around here.

I can help you with these challenges.

Let's have a quick chat

Do you think you are ready to start couples work or get individual relationship help? Let’s talk and find out! Book a consultation, right now!

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If you need URGENT help, you can book a full appointment with Dr. Shaler right now.

Schedule a private session with Dr. Shaler. This insures that you will get the fastest answer and the most immediate help. You can meet with her in-person or through Zoom from wherever you are in the world.  Schedule your appointment HERE now.


Please understand, Dr. Shaler is NOT a sex therapist. This is not the place for questions about improving your actual sex life or performance, however, questions regarding deepening emotional and psychological intimacy as it relates to your relationship in the bedroom may be asked and will be answered.

In the meantime, read the blog, subscribe to Vital Tips for Relationships, and  watch video responses to some frequent questions!