The question:
I am seen as someone in the caring mode. All my life in fact. However, now more than ever I need close family members to listen to me and some of my needs. I go into hospital for 2 days on the 21st December and rest at home for 3 weeks after my operation. I am tired of people telling me how busy they are with their lives. I want to be polite, but firm in how I need things to change in my life. How do I do this?
Setting boundaries and “teaching people how to treat us” is an important part of being a grown-up. Accepting people’s response – whether it’s what we want to hear or not – is ALSO part of being a grown-up. Figuring out what to do with all the pieces can be tricky – especially if it means we have to make changes ourselves. Being a grown-up, however, gives each of us the power & control over our own lives and getting what we need and want. Sometimes we have to find new ways. Allowing other grown-ups to say no to us is all part of the deal. But making our own needs known, in a kind, honest, direct way is the first step.
